Book Recommendations
The Team at the Toby Henderson Trust have made recommendations and suggestions of books that they have found really useful. There are well over 100 books listed below. Let us know if you have any other books that you would recommend.
Categories:
- Understanding Autism
- ADHD
- Anxiety
- Autistic Adults
- Autistic Camouflaging/Masking
- Autistic Girls
- Autistic Teens
- Bereavement
- Feelings & Emotions
- Grandparents
- Mental Health
- Neurodiversity
- Parenting
- Pathological demand avoidance (PDA)
- Other
- School Related Issues
- Sensory processing
- Siblings
- Social skills
- Toileting
- Visual support
Understanding Autism
Ten things every child with Autism wishes you knew (Revised in 2019) by Ellen Notbohm
The reason I jump by Naoki Higashida (good for older children & parents/carers)
This groundbreaking book, written by Naoki when he was only thirteen, provides some answers. Severely autistic and non-verbal, Naoki learnt to communicate by using a ‘cardboard keyboard’ – and what he has to say gives a rare insight into an autistically-wired mind.
YouTube read aloud (audiobook): https://youtu.be/UE9PAT2dG8c
A different kind of brilliant by Louise Cummins (aimed at 3 -11yrs)
Written by a Mom to help teach her son with autism to embrace his differences and recognize he is a different kind of brilliant.
A Different Kind of Brilliant: Amazon.co.uk: Cummins, Louise E: Books
YouTube read aloud: https://youtu.be/y6g8QHWkKZU
I see things differently by Pat Thomas (Aimed at 4 – 8yrs sibling/classmates/family members)
This reassuring picture book explains what autism is in simple terms, helping children with siblings or classmates with autism understand what everyday life feels like from a child with autism’s perspective.
YouTube read aloud: https://youtu.be/5mZkWrD-KAg
Can you see me?
By Libby Scott (Aimed at 9yrs +)
With diary entries written by eleven-year-old Libby Scott, based on her own experiences of autism, this pioneering book, has been widely praised for its realistic portrayal of autism.
The superhero brain by Christel Land (For young children)
This story speaks to children who have autism and explains to them what it means in a way that leaves them feeling empowered and able to make their dreams come true.
This book is available in a format for either a girl or a boy. Both links below.
The secret life of Rose: Inside an autistic head by Rose Smitten (Aimed at 10+yrs, parents/carers, professionals & family members)
This book will introduce you to life with autism, help you understand those in your life who are autistic from the perspective of an 11 year old autistic girl and her Mum; an autism specialist.
My Mummy is autistic by Heath Grace (Good for 6 -12yrs)
Five-year-old Heath illustrates his understanding of his autistic mother Joanna, giving insight into the different ways in which autistic and neurotypical people understand language.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mummy-Autistic-Recognising-Understanding-Difference
The curious incident of the dog in the nighttime by Mark Haddon (older children, teens, adults)
Fictional novel – The detective, and narrator, is Christopher Boone. Christopher is fifteen and has Asperger’s Syndrome. He knows a very great deal about maths and very little about human beings. He loves lists, patterns, and the truth. He hates the colours yellow and brown and being touched. He has never gone further than the end of the road on his own, but when he finds a neighbour’s dog murdered, he sets out on a terrifying journey which will turn his whole world upside down.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Curious-Incident-Dog-Night-time
YouTube read aloud (audiobook): https://youtu.be/PgZx_lrgWKE
The abilities in me – Autism by Gemma Keir
Explore the day in the life of a young girl and boy with autism through bright, colourful illustrations and text. Perfect for teachers, parents and children alike, this book will bring awareness of the condition and teach children how to be supportive and be kind. This picture book is aimed for children between the ages of 3-8 years.
The abilities in me: Autism: Amazon.co.uk: Keir, Gemma, Walker-Parker, Adam: 9781095358221: Books
Autism – How to raise a happy autistic child by Jessie Hewitson (for parents).
It combines her own experiences with tips from autistic adults, other parents – including author David Mitchell – as well as advice from autism professionals and academics such as Professor Simon Baron-Cohen. Autism looks at the condition as a difference rather than a disorder and includes guidance.
A different sort of normal by Abigail Balfe.
The beautiful true story of one girl’s journey growing up autistic – and the challenges she faced in the ‘normal’ world
Autism and Me by Haia Ironside
The activities in this book explore what it means to be autistic. It is full of fun activities including colouring, drawing and DIY.
Wonderboy by James Matthewson
Through poetry and the written word, James has documented an experience that will be all too familiar to many young people throughout the world. The overwhelming desire to fit in, to be ‘normal’ and to attempt to navigate a challenging mainstream school system is ingrained in the moving words that make up Wonderboy.
Autism, Identity & me by Rebecca Duffus (Twin pack)
This empowering workbook and guide will help children and young people (10+) to develop a positive understanding of their autistic identity, whilst the guide provides key adults with the tools needed to support their journey and initiate important conversations.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Autism-Identity-Me-Practical-Professional/dp/1032261021
Amazing me amazing you by Christine McGuiness
In this first children’s book from autism ambassador, Christine McGuinness shows just how important it is to embrace diversity and inclusivity while highlighting just how much it means to accept one another, just as we are with all the uniqueness that makes us special.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Amazing-You-ambassador-Christine-McGuinness/dp
My child/teen has been identified as autistic by Viv Dawes.
A book for parents or anyone wanting to understand autism, written by an actually autistic person. https://www.amazon.co.uk/child-teen-been-identified-Autistic/dp
The ice cream guide to autism by Debbie Elley & Tori Houghton
This picture-led book uses ice-cream sundae ingredients to represent various aspects of autism such as sensory differences, special interests, explaining the different facets of autism in a neutral way. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Ice-Cream-Sundae-Guide-Autism-Understanding/dp
Square Me, Round World: Stories of growing up in a world not built for you by Chelsea Sarah Luker
‘Square Me, Round World’ is an illuminating collection of short stories that delve into the distinctive experiences of those who navigate life feeling like square pegs in a world of round holes. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Square-Me-Round-World-Stories/dp/0648605515
Anxiety
When my worries are too big by Kari Dunn Buron (for young children)
Engaging and easy to read, this illustrated children s book is filled with opportunities for children to participate in developing their own self-calming strategies.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/When-Worries-Get-Too-Big
YouTube read aloud: https://youtu.be/T7WlYQ7RMZw
A huge bag of worries by Virginia Ironside (For young children)
A reassuring picture book encouraging children to open up about their fears and anxieties to help manage their feelings. The perfect book to soothe worries during stressful times.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Huge-Bag-Worries-Virginia-Ironside
YouTube read aloud: https://youtu.be/D5ibh-RzwIU
What to do when you worry too much by Dawn Huebner (6-12yrs)
interactive self-help book designed to guide 6-12 year olds and their parents through the cognitive-behavioural techniques most often used in the treatment of generalized anxiety.
Starving the anxiety Gremlin by Kate Collins-Donnelly (Age 5-9yrs)
this CBT workbook uses fun and imaginative activities to teach children how to manage their anxiety by changing how they think and act – getting rid of their Anxiety Gremlins for good!
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Starving-Anxiety-Gremlin-Children-Aged
The worry workbook by Imogen Harrison (ages 7-13yrs)
helps by explaining what worry is, offering creative ways to calm and distract yourself when worry strikes.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Worry-Workbook-Anti-Worry-Activity-Book
What’s worrying you? By Molly Potter (Ages 5-7yrs)
a book all about helping children understand their worries, and what to do when they feel overwhelmed by their thoughts and feelings.
The little book of mindfulness by Tiddy Rowan (older children & adults)
Tiddy, a practitioner for over 30 years, has gathered together a seminal collection of over 150 techniques, tips, exercises, advice, meditations and further resources that will enable people at every level to follow the breath, still the mind and relax the body, whilst generating and boosting a feeling of well-being and contentment that will permeate every aspect of everyday life.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Little-Book-Mindfulness-Tiddy-Rowan
This book is relatable for any child — especially kids experiencing anxiety, extreme emotions, autism, or who have been diagnosed as a Highly Sensitive Person. Beautifully illustrated and written in rhyming verse, children and adults explore the whole spectrum of feelings and readers navigate the emotional challenges they face throughout the day.
The Boy with Big, Big Feelings (The Big, Big) : Britney Winn Lee: Amazon.co.uk: Books
Life as a bird can be stressful! From worrying about airplanes, windows, and getting enough worms to eat, it is clear that birds can be anxious beings. Through a light-touch, quizzical depiction of bird behaviour, All Birds Have Anxiety uses colourful images and astute explanations to explore with gentle humour what it means to live with anxiety day-to-day, and how to begin to deal with it.
All Birds Have Anxiety: Amazon.co.uk: Kathy Hoopmann: 9781785921827: Books
Avoiding Anxiety in Autistic Children by Dr Luke Beardon
Dr Luke Beardon has put together an optimistic, upbeat and readable guide that will be essential reading for any parent to an autistic child, whether they are of preschool age or teenagers. this practical book gives insight into the nature of the anxiety experienced by autistic people, as well as covering every likely situation in which your child might feel anxious or worried.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Avoiding-Anxiety-Autistic-Children-Wellbeing/dp
Feelings and Emotions
The incredible 5 point scale by Kari Dunn Buron (Ages 7-13yrs)
This clearly written book is an expanded and revised 2nd edition that shows children how to work at problem behaviour and move on to alternative positive behaviours. Assisting Students in understanding social Interactions and controlling their emotional responses.
The colour monster by Anna Llenas (For young children)
A gentle exploration of feelings for young and old alike.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Colour-Monster-Anna-Llenas
YouTube read aloud: https://youtu.be/W6wIEp-M4tg
Flooded by Allison Edwards (for parents/carers & professionals)
This book explains how parents, teachers, and counsellors can identify when children have entered The Flood Zone. Offering suggestions for teaching children (and adults!) how to regain control of their emotions.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Flooded-Brain-Based-Children-Regulate-Emotions
It’s ok to cry by Molly Potter (Young children)
Includes colourful illustrations, child-friendly strategies and vocabulary for managing feelings, and helpful notes for parents, carers and practitioners.
The way I feel by Janan Cain (Ages 3-8yrs)
The Way I Feel uses strong, colourful, and expressive images which go along with simple verses to help children connect the word and the emotion.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Way-I-Feel-Janan-Cain
YouTube read aloud: https://youtu.be/OfyRzOmq4JU
When I’m feeling angry by Tracey Moroney (for young children)
Feeling angry can make you feel like you’re going to explode! What do you do when your child feels angry.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/When-Im-Feeling-Angry-Anniversary
YouTube read aloud: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wy13wXb0X30
When I’m feeling Scared by Tracey Moroney (for young children)
Feeling scared can make you feel like you want to run and hide in a safe place. What do parents do when their child feels scared? Each book features a page of parents’ notes written by a child psychologist.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/When-Feeling-Scared-Trace-Moroney
YouTube read aloud: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tu5HHT6CRRk
When I’m feeling happy by Tracey Moroney (for young children)
Feeling happy can make you feel bouncy and full of joy! How can a parent help their child feel happy? Helping young children develop skills to identify and manage their feelings leads to an increase in confidence, self-esteem, and an optimistic and hopeful state of mind–creating a healthy emotional foundation.
YouTube read aloud: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mIdPjMIYGrA
When I’m feeling lonely by Tracey Moroney (for young children)
Feeling lonely can make you feel like there is no one else like you. Helping young children develop skills to identify and manage their feelings leads to an increase in confidence, self-esteem, and a healthy emotional foundation.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/When-Im-Feeling-Lonely-Feelings
YouTube read aloud: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tFaxBF0QLo4
When I’m feeling jealous by Tracey Moroney (for young children)
shares examples of ways to express these feelings in a way that is both appropriate and acceptable to themselves and others. Feeling jealous can make you feel like you are not as important as others . . . but you are!
https://www.amazon.co.uk/When-Im-Feeling-Jealous-Feelings
YouTube read aloud: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gu3Px7c1G_s
My Great Big Feelings – A story for sensitive children by C M Tolentino.
For highly sensitive children and those with sensory processing difficulties. This book is comforting and empowering. Sensitivities covered in story include: noises, tags/ uncomfortable clothing, lights, feeling other’s emotions, food textures and temperatures, stressful/ overwhelming feelings in general.
My Great Big Feelings: A Story for Sensitive Children eBook : Tolentino, C. M.: Amazon.co.uk: Books
Social Skills
My mouth is a volcano by Julia Cook (Age 4+)
An empathetic approach to the habit of interrupting. This story helps teach children the value of respecting others by listening and waiting for their turn to speak.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/My-Mouth-Volcano-Julia-Cook
YouTube read aloud:
Will you be my friend? By Molly Potter (Young children)
This book is both humorous and charming, and prompts children to discuss the idea of friendship with parents and peers.
Mental Health
What’s going on inside my head? By Molly Potter (Young children)
Perfect for starting conversations with children about their mental and emotional health.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Whats-Going-Inside-Head-conversations
YouTube read aloud: https://youtu.be/jET6awrqOtw
Things I want you to know when everything feels terrible (All ages)
Just fill in the blanks, and it transforms into the only book of its kind: a personalised, meaningful book (gift) for someone who is having a tough time. Nice way to show someone you care.
The boy, the mole, the fox & the horse by Charlie Mackesy
A book of hope for uncertain times. Enter the world of Charlie’s four unlikely friends, discover their story and their most important life lessons and exploring the thoughts and feelings that unite us all.
A better day by DR Alex George
A Better Day is a positive, accessible and practical toolkit guiding young readers in how they can care for their mental health with confidence.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Better-Day-Positive-Mental-Handbook/dp
Healthy Mind, Happy You: How to Take Care of Your Mental Health – Everything you need to know about anxiety and mental health by Dr Emily Macdonagh
This reassuring, fact-packed book for girls and boys is all about how to maintain good mental health while growing up. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Healthy-Mind-Happy-You-Everything/dp
Self-care for autistic people by Dr Megan Anna Neff
Ditch the stigma, celebrate your identity, and put yourself first with these 100+ exercises that reinforce the idea that neurodiversity is a strength and teaches you how to relax, destress, find your community, practice self-love, and more. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Self-Care-Autistic-People-Recharge-Stress/dp
Understanding autistic burnout workbook by Viv Dawes
This book explains what autistic burnout is, the symptoms, the causes, triggers and what can and what will not help the person experiencing burnout.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Understanding-Autistic-Burnout-Viv-Dawes/dp
Visual Support
Stories that explain by Lynn McCann (For parents, carers & professionals)
A one-stop support guide to helping children understand social situations through stories. The book gives a concise explanation of the use of stories, why they are important, and advice on how to write/edit stories, including tips on how to present them. Comes with accompanying CD.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Stories-that-explain-stories-children
My social stories book by Carol Gray (for parents, carers & professionals.)
Contains over 150 Stories, and is illustrated throughout with line drawings, which form a visual counterpart to the text. A helpful introduction explains to parents and carers how to get the most out of the book.
Toileting
What is poo? By Katie Daynes (aimed at 3-6yrs)
Very First Lift-the-Flap Questions and Answers. What is poo? Does everyone do it? And where does it all go? Children can lift the flaps to find the answers in this surprisingly charming book.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/First-Lift-Flap-Questions-Answers
YouTube read aloud: https://youtu.be/izcnqCIQvVc
My puppy’s a poo magician by Melissa YAPP (Young children)
A story to help families start the conversation about the silent, confusing issues of constipation, stool withholding and encopresis.
Autistic Teens
The loving push by Temple Grandin (for parents, carers & professionals)
Anyone who cares about a child or teen on the autism spectrum need this essential roadmap to prepare our youth for being successful adults in today’s world.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Loving-Push-Professionals-Spectrum-Successful
It’s raining cats and dogs by Michael Barton (Older children & Teens)
A witty Autism Spectrum Guide to the Confusing World of Idioms, Metaphors and Everyday Expressions.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Its-Raining-Cats-Dogs-Expressions
YouTube read aloud: https://youtu.be/iPvJvtfUELc
What’s happening to me – Girls Edition by Susan Meredith (Older children & Teens)
This sensitive, informative guide to puberty for girls tackles everything from body image to mood swings, hormones and first bras.
What’s happening to me – Boys Edition by Susan Meredith (Older children & Teens)
sensitive guide to male puberty. It tackles key subjects from the physical changes that occur at this time to the emotional upheaval this can cause.
All cats are on the Autism Spectrum by Kathy Hoopman (Older children & Teens)
This updated edition of the bestselling All Cats Have Asperger Syndrome provides an engaging, humorous, gentle introduction to autism.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/All-Cats-Are-Autism-Spectrum
YouTube read aloud: https://youtu.be/1VClo8kkLX4
The Awesome Autistic Go-To Guide: A Practical Handbook for Autistic Teens and Tweens by Yenn Purkis, Tanya Masterman (aimed at 10-14 yrs)
This book explores what it feels like to be a young person on the autism spectrum and looks at all the brilliant things people on the autism spectrum can do and celebrates the strengths of understanding the world in a different way.
Freaks, Geeks and Aspergers Syndrome by Luke Jackson (Teens.)
A book written in 2002 by a 13yr old by called Luke drawing from his own experiences and gaining information from his teenage brother and sisters, he wrote this enlightening, honest and witty book in an attempt to address difficult topics such as bullying, friendships, when and how to tell others about AS, school problems, dating, relationships and morality. Luke’s main reason for writing was because – “So many books are written about us, but none are written directly to adolescents with Asperger Syndrome. I thought I would write one in the hope that we could all learn together.”
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Freaks-Geeks-Asperger-Syndrome-Adolescence
The Autism friendly guide to periods by Robyn Steward (Older children & Teens)
the book reduces the anxiety girls face in asking for help. It offers direct advice on what periods look and feel like and how to manage hygiene and pain. It also breaks up information using flaps and step-by-step photos of how to change pads and tampons, it discusses alternatives to tampons and pads, and gives information about possible sensory issues for people with autism.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Autism-Friendly-Guide-Periods-Robyn-Steward
YouTube Vlog about the book with Author: https://youtu.be/T9w5u8l7PdA
(useful for older children/Teens/parents/carers)
The pre-teen and teenage years are a confusing time when bodies start acting with a will of their own, friendships change and crushes start to develop. This book tells boys all they need to know!
Nurturing your autistic young person: A parents handbook to supporting a newly diagnosed teen/pre-teen by Cathey Wassell
Designed to help parents become fully informed and ensure a nurturing and positive environment for our autistic young people, this is a guide with a focus on difference – not deficit.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Nurturing-Your-Autistic-Young-Person/
Queerly autistic by Erin Ekins
In this empowering and honest guide for LGBTQIA+ autistic teens, Erin Ekins gives you all the tools you need to figure out and explore your gender identity and sexuality.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Queerly-Autistic-Ultimate-LGBTQIA-Spectrum/dp/1787751716
Siblings
The superhero heart by Christel Land (Younger children)
This story speaks to children who are close to a child with autism and explains how we are all different to each other, and how the sibling has special powers, which help them in the trickier moments where the child might feel rejection or find it hard to deal with a meltdown. This book is available in a format for either a girl or a boy. Both links below.
Boy – https://www.amazon.co.uk/Superhero-Heart-Explaining-autism-
Girl – https://www.amazon.co.uk/Superhero-Heart-Explaining-autism-
What about me? by Brennan & Mandy Farmer (Aimed at 4-8yr olds)
Having a sibling on the spectrum brings great joy. It also brings a flurry of emotions, challenges and questions. Written by a seven-year-old boy, “What About Me?” works through the day-to-day struggles and joys of being an autism sibling.
Everybody is different by Fiona Bleach (Aimed at 9-12yr olds)
This book gives answers to the many questions brothers and sisters of young people on the autism spectrum have about their siblings. In addition to explaining in basic terms the characteristics of autism, this little book is full of helpful suggestions for making family life more comfortable for everyone.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Everybody-Different-People-Brothers-Sisters
My brother Sammy by Becky Edwards (For young children)
This moving book portrays life with an autistic child in the family. It does not promise any simple solution but reminds us all that understanding and compromise are vital ingredients in a good relationship.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/My-Brother-Sammy-Becky-Edwards
YouTube read aloud: https://youtu.be/xKblk-Z0iaI
Autism in my family – A journal for siblings by Sandra Tucker
This interactive workbook is designed for siblings to autistic children. Introducing the experience of autism in simple language, children can complete activities that identify differences and strengthen relationships. This book is focussed on understanding and supporting a sibling while developing individual emotions and identity.
A Siblings guide to autism by Irene Kim
16-year-old Irene Kim writes A Sibling’s Guide to Autism in hopes that she can be the older sister that she never had—for Skylar and for any other sibling out there who wants to be understood.
Autism The Invisible Cord by Barbara Cain
Meet Jenny — a teen who confides in her diary about what it is like to live with Ezra, her younger brother who is autistic, and her life with the most “wacky, exasperating, infuriating, amazing younger brother!”
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Autism-Invisible-Cord-Siblings-Diary-ebook/dp
Me and my sister by Rose Robbins
A celebration of the highs and lows of having a much loved but differently abled brother or sister.
Grandparents
Grandparents guide to Autism spectrum disorder by Nancy Mucklow
This book serves as a practical guide to turning grandparents’ concern, confusion, and initial sadness for their grandchild with ASD into a relationship of acceptance, confidence and realistic expectations.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Grandparents-Guide-Autism-Spectrum-Disorders
Sensory Processing
Max and Me by Ines Lawlor (For parents/children & professionals)
Offers an explanation of how sensory information is processed using the analogy of a ‘modulator’, who living in the brain has the job of receiving messages from the senses and then deciding the best thing for the body to do. Once Max gets to know his modulator and how to work together with him, things start to go better for him. The workbook format is designed to allow children to reflect on the story and working together with an adult, get to know their own ‘modulator’.
YouTube read aloud: https://vimeo.com/149881892
Understanding Your Child’s Sensory Signals: A Practical Daily Use Handbook by Angie Voss (For Parents and professionals.)
Sensory tools and strategies made simple for home, school, and in the community! Handbook includes over 210 of the most common sensory signals and cues your child may be giving you. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Understanding-Your-Childs-Sensory-Signals/
Self Regulation Interventions and Strategies. Keeping the Body, Mind & Emotions on Task in Children with Autism, ADHD or Sensory Disorders by Teresa Garland
Keeping children bodies, minds and emotions on task just got easier with this new book . Featuring more than 200 practical and proven interventions, strategies and adaptation for helping children gain more control over their lives. Each chapter provides rich background and theoretical material to help the reader better understand the issues our children face.
The Out-Of-Sync Child: Recognizing and Coping with Sensory Processing Disorder by Carol Stock Kranowitz
This groundbreaking book explains Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD)–and presents a drug-free approach that offers hope for parents.
The vibration in her feet when she runs, the tap-tap-tap of her fork on the table at mealtime, the trickle of cool water running over her hands-these are the things that calm her jitters down. This book is for anyone who has ever felt the need for a wiggle, stomp, or squeeze!
Wiggles, Stomps, and Squeezes Calm My Jitters Down : Lindsey Rowe Parker: Amazon.co.uk: Books
YouTube read aloud: https://youtu.be/lFvYSlqRKH4
ADHD
All Dogs have ADHD by Kathy Hoopman (Young children +)
It explores a variety of traits that will be instantly recognisable to those who are familiar with ADHD. Charming colour photographs of dogs bring to life familiar ADHD characteristics such as being restless and excitable, getting easily distracted, and acting on impulse.
The ADHD sibling challenge by Barton S.Herskovitz (Siblings.)
Using stories and exercises, kids learn to identify and manage their feelings about the challenges of living with a sibling with ADHD. Kids learn new coping skills to navigate the family environment more effectively.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/ADHD-Sibling-Challenge-Brother-Interactive
Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)
My daughter is not naughty by Jane Alison Sherwin (for parents & professionals)
Full of advice and support, and with a focus on understanding the child and how he or she sees the world, “this book will be of immeasurable value.”
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Pathological-Demand-Avoidance-Syndrome-Daughter
Can I tell you about pathological demand avoidance syndrome? By Ruth Fidler & Phil Christie (A guide for 7+ children, parents, friends, professionals.)
Issy an 11-year-old girl with pathological demand avoidance syndrome (PDA), invites readers to learn about PDA from her perspective, helping them to understand how simple, everyday demands can cause her great anxiety and stress. Issy tells readers about all the ways she can be helped and supported by those around her.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/about-Pathological-Demand-Avoidance-syndrome
Understanding pathological demand avoidance syndrome in children by Ruth Fidler (for parents & professionals)
This straightforward guide offers a complete overview of Pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome (PDA) and gives practical advice for overcoming the difficulties it poses in a wide range of contexts from diagnosis through to adulthood.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Understanding-Pathological-Avoidance-Syndrome-Children
Me and my PDA- A guide to pathological demand avoidance for young people by Glòria Durà-Vilà and Tamar Levi (A guide for 10+ children and parents)
This beautifully illustrated guide helps young people with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) to understand their diagnosis, develop self-awareness and implement their own personalised problem-solving strategies. Written in consultation with young people with PDA and their families, this book recognises the importance of handing control back to the young person, and that there is no one-size-fits-all PDA profile.
The family experience of PDA BY Eliza Fricker
A light-hearted and digestible guide to being a PDA parent covering everything from tolerance levels, relationships and meltdowns to collaboration, flexibility, and self-care to dip in and out as your schedule allows to help get to grips with this complex condition.
This book is an essential read for any parent with a PDA child, to help better understand your child, build support systems and carve out some essential self-care time guilt free.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Family-Experience-PDA-Illustrated-Pathological
Pretty Darn Awesome: Divergent not Deficient – Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance on the Autism Spectrum by Lauren O’Grady.
This is a story about a little boy with Pathological Demand Avoidance – a not so well known profile of the autistic spectrum. It looks at his daily struggles but more importantly his amazing strengths. A useful introduction to PDA and a way to share it and explain it positively to children, siblings, family members, teachers and classmates.
PDA in the family – Life after the lightbulb moment by Steph Curtis
In this honest and open account of life with her PDA daughter, Sasha, Steph Curtis reveals the everyday struggles and explores the milestones of raising a child diagnosed with Pathological Demand Avoidance. With unique insights from Sasha’s father, sister, and Sasha herself, this book offers insider knowledge, understanding and advice from one family to another. It would also be helpful for those in education, healthcare or other settings to gain a better understanding of Pathological Demand Avoidance. https://www.amazon.co.uk/PDA-Family-After-Lightbulb-Moment/dp
The Teen’s Guide to PDA by Laura Kerbey
Whether you’ve just been diagnosed with PDA -or are a seasoned PDAer keen to know a bit more – this warm and wittily illustrated guide will give you a better understanding of your amazing brain and why you are so good at some things but find other things tricky.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Teens-Guide-PDA-Laura-Kerbey/dp
Autistic Girls
M is for Autism by The students in Limpsfield grange school (teen girls)
A school for girls with Autism Spectrum Disorder and communication and interaction difficulties, M’s story draws on the real life experiences of teens with autism.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Autism-Students-Limpsfield-Grange-School
The girl with the curly hair by Alis Rowe (Teen girls)
A book about the author’s experiences of growing up with Asperger’s Syndrome.
The Girl with the Curly Hair – Asperger’s and Me eBook : Rowe, Alis: Amazon.co.uk: Books
Sisterhood of the spectrum by Jennifer Cook O’Toole (Teen girls)
Jennifer Cook O’Toole draws on her own, real-life experiences rather than preaching from textbooks, she covers everything you need (and want!) to know, from body shapes and love interests to bullying, friendships and how to discover and celebrate your unique, beautiful self. It will leave you empowered, informed and excited to be different.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sisterhood-Spectrum-Asperger-Chicks-Guide
The spectrum girls survival guide by Siena Castellon (Teen girls)
This essential go-to guide gives you all the advice and tools you’ll need to help you flourish and achieve what you want in life. From the answers to everyday questions such as ‘Am I using appropriate body language?’ and ‘Did I say the wrong thing?’, through to discussing the importance of understanding your emotions, looking after your physical and mental health and coping with anxiety and sensory overloads.
A different sort of normal by Abigail Balfe.
The beautiful true story of one girl’s journey growing up autistic – and the challenges she faced in the ‘normal’ world
What every autistic girl wishes her parents knew by Autism Women’s Network
In this first book release from the Autism Women’s Network, the autistic contributors write with honesty and generosity about the emotional needs, sensitivity, and vibrancy of autistic girls.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Every-Autistic-Wishes-Parents/dp/
Supporting spectacular girls by Helen Clarke
Autistic girls can be frequently misunderstood, underestimated and therefore anxious in a school environment. This practical book offers an innovative life skills curriculum for autistic girls aged 11 to 15, based on the author’s successful workshops and training, which show how to support girls’ wellbeing and boost their self-esteem.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Supporting-Spectacular-Girls-Developing-Self-Esteem/dp/1787755487
Safeguarding autistic girls – strategies for professionals by Carly Jones MBE
This honest, to-the-point guide illuminates the experience of young Autistic girls and explores the situations they can easily fall victim to.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Safeguarding-Autistic-Girls-Strategies-Professionals/dp
The autistic guide to puberty: A practical survival handbook by Victoria Ellen
It is aimed at autistic teen girls and covers a whole range of things such as shopping for bras to period products and creating routines, each section provides a mini snapshot into going through puberty as an Autistic teen. Less of the science and more of the practical useful advice. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Autistic-Guide-Puberty-Practical-Survival/dp
Bereavement
The Invisible string by Patrice Karst. (Young children)
Parents, educators, therapists, and social workers alike have declared The Invisible String the perfect tool for coping with all kinds of separation anxiety, loss, and grief.
Recommended and adopted by parenting blogs, bereavement support groups, hospice centres, foster care and social service agencies and educators.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Invisible-String-Patrice-Karst
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Let’s talk about when someone dies by Molly Potter (Young Children.)
This book uses clear, easy-to-understand language to answer complex questions about death and how a child might feel when someone dies.
Let’s Talk About When Someone Dies : Potter, Molly, Jennings, Sarah: Amazon.co.uk: Books
Grandad’s Island by Benji Davies (Children)
Sure to provide comfort to young children struggling to understand loss, the tale is a sensitive and beautiful reminder that our loved ones live on in our memories long after they’re gone.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Grandads-Island-Benji-Davies/
YouTube read aloud: https://youtu.be/SVWHACJW-XQ
Badgers parting gifts by Susan Varley (Children)
A multi award-winning picture book about losing a loved one. Features a helpful reading guide from Child Bereavement UK that provides tips for reading Badger’s Parting Gifts with children and helping them better understand grief.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Badgers-Parting-Gifts-35th-Anniversary
YouTube read aloud: https://youtu.be/tRTRABhJTbo
Teen Grief – Caring for the grieving teenage heart by Gary Roe (For parents & those in a supporting role with teens)
This informative, practical handbook is replete with guidance, insight, and ideas for helping teens navigate the turbulent waters of loss.
I have a question about Death: Clear answers for all children including children with Autism by Arlen Grad Gaines and Meredith Englander Polsky.
The first book of its kind, I Have a Question about Death uses straightforward text and images to walk children through what it means when someone dies.
Autistic Adults
Spectrum Women: Walking to the Beat of Autism by Barb Cook and Dr Michelle Garnett.
Barb Cook and 14 other autistic women describe life from a female autistic perspective, and present empowering, helpful and supportive insights from their personal experience for fellow autistic women. Michelle Garnett’s comments validate and expand the experiences described from a clinician’s perspective, and provide extensive recommendations.
Avoiding Anxiety in Autistic Adults by Dr Luke Beardon
Dr Luke Beardom has put together an optimistic, upbeat and readable guide that will be essential reading not just for any autistic adult, but for anyone who loves, lives with or works with an autistic person. Emphasising that autism is not behaviour, but at the same time acknowledging that there are risks of increased anxiety specific to autism, this practical book gives clear strategies that the autistic person can adopt to minimise their anxiety and live comfortably in a world full of what may seem to be noise and chaos.
Subtle Spectrum by Joanna Grace
The Subtle Spectrum offers an exploration into the postdiagnostic landscape of autism and the transformative journey of one woman, from her awareness of difference, through acceptance, to an embracing of autistic identity and beyond as she questions the cultural identity of autism. The Subtle Spectrum: An Honest Account of Autistic Discovery, Relationships and Identity: Amazon.co.uk: Grace, Joanna: 9780367709235: Books
The autism couple’s workbook by Maxine Aston
Combining advice, guidance and activities, this book can be used independently by a couple at home or in conjunction with a therapist, encouraging communication and empathy to help make a neurodiverse relationship successful.
Unbroken by Alexis Quinn
Alexis Quinn has always known she was different. Academically and athletically gifted, she soared through her years in education but failed to socialise adequately with her peers. Somehow, social norms just passed her by. But her difference had always been her strength, until the birth of her child and the death of her brother, Josh; then her difference became her downfall. Unable to deal with the reality of what happened with Josh, Alexis was detained under the mental health act against her will. She found herself struggling for years, as time went by, she realised that the care she thought was going to help her might just be the very thing that would destroy her. Raw and honest, Unbroken tells the story of a strong woman learning how to live beyond diagnosis.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Unbroken-Learning-Beyond-Autism-Diagnosis/dp/
Parenting when you’re autistic by Pooky Knightsmith
Speaking from a wealth of experience as both a mental health expert and an autistic parent, Pooky guides you through the joys and challenges of raising children in a neurotypical world. From self-care and special interests to meltdowns and managing conflict, the tips and strategies in this book will help you to build a positive relationship with your child, whether they’re neurotypical or neurodivergent, all while looking after your own mental health. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Parenting-When-Youre-Autistic-neurodivergence/dp
So, I’m autistic by Sarah O’Brien
This book gives a much-needed introduction into what autism is and removes the myths, stereotypes and stigma that surround it.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/So-Im-Autistic-Introduction-Autism/dp/1839972262
Parenting
Courageous Parents – Becoming a good anchor for your children by Haim Omer
This book is the most general and practical presentation of NVR (non-violent resistance) for parents to date. It is a step by step manual on how parents can develop a “new authority”, based on presence, self-control, support and persistence, instead of the authority of yore that was based on distance, intimidation and force. In its chapters parents are helped to rediscover their courage and strength, develop cooperation in spite of differences, and find legitimate ways to supervise their child.
Courageous Parents: Becoming a good anchor for your children eBook : Omer, Haim: Amazon.co.uk: Books
Parenting Rewired – How to raise a happy autistic child in a very neurotypical world by Danielle Punter and Charlotte Chaney
Packed with lived-experience insight and easy-to-follow advice this transformative guide will change how you view the behaviour of your autistic child and challenge you to rewire your thinking to see the world through the autistic lens. This guide challenges the common misunderstandings surrounding autistic behaviour, such as emotional dysregulation in public settings or meltdowns at mealtimes.
Your child is not broken by Heidi Mavir
THE book for parents who need permission to do things differently. Part autobiography, part parenting manual, “Your Child Is Not Broken” is a no-holds-barred account of Heidi Mavir’s discovery of her child’s neurodivergence. It is the funny, irreverent and brutally honest story of Heidi’s fight to be seen, heard, and supported.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/YOUR-CHILD-NOT-BROKEN-Neurodivergent
Supporting Children and Young People through Autistic Burnout – A workbook for parents of autistic children) by Viv Dawes
This workbook seeks to explain what autistic burnout is, the main causes, triggers and the main indicators. It will help you look at how to help your autistic child or teenager experiencing burnout and how to negotiate what can be a very challenging journey. The book will help you decide what is best for them and gives tips on how to make home a place where they can heal. There is also a chapter looking at crisis and what the main factors might be for your child or teenager. Supporting Children and Young People Through Autistic Burnout (A Workbook For Parents Of Autistic Children) : Dawes, Viv: Amazon.co.uk: Books
Neurodiversity
Neurodiversity! What’s that? An introduction to neurodiversity for kids by Nadine Arthur
Written by a neurodivergent mum aiming to improve the self-esteem and confidence of children.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Neurodiversity-Whats-That-introduction-neurodiversity/
Different not less by Chloe Hayden
Neurodivergent advocate Chloe Hayden shares the challenges and triumphs of her personal journey with autism and ADHD. She shares often overlooked signs of autism and ADHD; the basics of stimming, meltdowns and sensory overload; tips for finding nurturing communities and overcoming common challenges in relationships and workplaces; and more.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Different-Not-Less-neurodivergents-embracing/
FREE Downloadable booklet – A guide to neurodiversity in early years by Anna Freud National Centre for children & families
The aims of this booklet are to introduce the concept of neurodiversity in an accessible way; consider how ableism is a barrier to inclusion; explore neurodivergent profiles of development and develop practical approaches in becoming neurodiversity-informed within our early years practice.
Booklet information – https://www.annafreud.org/early-years/early-years-in-mind/resources/a-guide-to-neurodiversity-in-the-early-years/
Free Download – A guide to neurodiversity in the early years
The neurodivergent friendly workbook of DBT skills by Sonny Jane Wise
As neurodivergent individuals, we often experience different types of distress from living in a society that isn’t designed for our differences. One of the best things we can do to support ourselves is manage our needs and respond to our distress in a way that works for us. This workbook of DBT skills has been reframed to be neurodivergent affirming while incorporating sensory strategies, managing meltdowns, stimming and more. Written and designed by an autistic ADHDer,
The Neurodivergent Friendly Workbook of DBT Skills: Amazon.co.uk: Wise, Sonny Jane:
Autistic Camouflaging/Masking
Taking off the mask: practical exercises to help understand and minimise the effects of autistic camouflaging by Hannah Louise Belcher
Combining lived experience with scientific research and practical advice, this book is the essential guide to understanding why you mask and how to feel confident without one.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Taking-Off-Mask-Understand-Camouflaging/dp
School Related Issues
Can’t Not Won’t by Eliza Flicker
Her compelling, hard-hitting and irreverently humorous illustrations follow a family through the early days of school avoidance, the process of accessing support and the challenges of coping in the meantime. Wonderfully relatable, the book also includes written guidance for parents and professionals on what works best when it comes to managing school avoidance.
Free Downloadable booklet
Reasonable adjustments possible at school by Autistic girls’ network (AGN)
We know that every child is different, but what this guide does is outlines some of the adjustments that could potentially be made to help support an autistic child navigate their experiences & wellbeing at school.
AGN Reasonable Adjustments Possible at School (autisticgirlsnetwork.org)
All about Autism – A practical guide for primary schools by Lynn McCann
This is an accessible and informative guide for primary school teachers, designed to increase their knowledge and understanding of autism and enhance their toolkit with practical, adaptable strategies to support autistic children in their care.
All about Autism – A practical guide for secondary schools by Lynn McCann
This is an accessible and informative guide for secondary school teachers, designed to increase their knowledge and understanding of autism and enhance their toolkit with practical, adaptable strategies to support autistic learners in their care.
Other
Autistic meltdowns, burnout & first responders by Viv Dawes
This book is designed for any first responders, primarily police officers, or anyone in the emergency services who may come into contact with an autistic person who may be experiencing a meltdown, or shutdown and may also be experiencing autistic burnout. The book can also be used by teachers, social workers, mental health professionals and other professionals working with autistic people. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Autistic-meltdowns-shutdowns-burnout-responders/dp
Embracing monotropism & supporting young people to help prevent autistic burnout by Helen Edgar
This book will provide a brief overview of the theory of monotropism, how it impacts people and ideas to provide support at home and other settings such as school to help prevent burnout.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Embracing-Monotropism-Supporting-Prevent-Autistic/dp